Women in their early thirties frequently encounter numerous pressures originating from personal, societal, and cultural expectations. Before reaching the age of 30, I aimed to make certain adjustments to align myself with what I believed I deserved and desired, only to realize that I was striving to meet external societal and cultural standards. Despite these changes being personal, I still experience stress in several areas. Some common pressures that many might face include:
Navigating Career Growth: Numerous women experience the urge to solidify or progress in their careers during this period. This often involves aiming for higher positions, transitioning to more rewarding roles, or finding a balance between career advancement and personal life.
Now, many are walking in faith and leaping into full-time entrepreneurship.
Family Considerations: The early thirties are frequently viewed as a time to think about beginning or enlarging a family, which can introduce stress regarding fertility and the choice to have children. This stress is often heightened by societal norms and biological factors.
Right before I turned 30, I made the decision to get my fibroids removed. I didn’t want to go into my 30’s with them. Although my doctor kept mentioning babies to me I actually did it for my own health and with high hopes that my husband who wants kids would soon find me. I’ll be 31 next week, still no husband, no kids, and just last month my doctor asked if I wanted to freeze my eggs.
Another story for another time!
Financial Security: Gaining financial stability, such as purchasing a home, settling student debt, or preparing for future needs, can be a major source of tension. I’m not sure what it is but, I have been trying to make the absolute best investment decisions that will position me to retire by 40. These 30’s just seem to be crucial lol.
Societal Norms: Women might encounter societal pressure to adhere to conventional timelines for marriage, home ownership, and other life milestones, which can be stressful if their personal timelines do not align.
Lately, I’ve been digging myself out of the “you’re 30 now why you’re not married or why you don’t have kids?” And if we’re being honest, it’s quite annoying considering the fact that the people that pose these questions, haven’t accomplished half as much as I have and have several kids without being married.
Why do they want me to join the club?
Self-Discovery: This phase can also be a time for introspection and reassessment of personal aspirations and principles, which can be both liberating and daunting.
Without all of the titles, I’m still trying to figure out who is Nicole.
Work-Life Harmony: Balancing the demands of work, family, and personal time can be particularly challenging, leading to stress over achieving a healthy equilibrium.
Health and Wellbeing: There is often an increased focus and concern on health, fitness, and wellness, as maintaining a healthy lifestyle becomes more of a priority. These pressures can significantly differ based on individual circumstances, cultural contexts, and personal aspirations. It’s crucial to recognize that each woman’s journey is distinct, and support systems, whether through friends, family, or professional networks, can play a vital role in managing these stresses.
Currently, what areas do you feel pressured in? How does it make you feel?
