A large number of young ladies are longing for a committed partnership, but currently, this seems to be far from their reality. With Valentine’s Day approaching in just a few weeks, it is causing a great deal of pressure for many individuals, ultimately affecting them mentally.

Last year, Valentine’s Day tore me apart completely. Out of the blue, I suffered a mental collapse, a breakdown that was essential. I had to ask my employer for a week off, whether paid or not, because of my loneliness and the absence of a Valentine. The situation was intensified by social media.

I didn’t envy the happy couples and their extravagant gifts and proposals, but I did feel a lack of self-love, which made me realize that I needed to heal. It is easy to avoid difficult situations and immerse oneself in work, but sadness tends to resurface unexpectedly.

As women in the millennial generation, we are independent, adventurous, and grounded in a strong sense of self. We courageously navigate life on our own terms, rejecting traditional roles and expectations. Before embarking on the journey of healing, I wanted to discover who Nicole truly is beyond the roles she plays and the image she presents to the world. Who is she at her core, and what values guide her?

While on this healing journey, I continue to hold onto the hope of finding a deep and meaningful romantic relationship that will lead to a fulfilling marriage, and I know you share the same longing. However, before diving into a relationship, it is essential to be aware of your core values and strengths that you utilize and leverage every day.

Recognizing your values and strengths is a fundamental requirement. Please understand that healing is necessary. The traumatic experience you have endured will inevitably impact your next relationship and may manifest in unpleasant ways. Therefore, it is crucial to know oneself before starting a new chapter.

Are you discipline enough to walk in that space?

Do you have integrity? Do you hold yourself accountable? Are you living an honest and respectable life?

Ask yourself these questions. Do the necessary work that needs to be done to successfully operate at your highest potential.