I am tired of these recent terms used to describe undefined relationships. Many individuals are succumbing to societal pressure and settling for less instead of patiently waiting for the romantic partner they truly desire and deserve.

If you are aware that you desire and deserve more, yet you find yourself in a situationship, you are occupying space and blocking blessings while also trapping yourself in an emotional hole. This is precisely why we fear intimacy and genuine connections. I view situationships as a bond based on fear, unease, and lack of confidence.

According to the slang dictionary, a situationship is a romantic or sexual relationship that is undefined and noncommittal. People in a situationship are more than friends but less than committed romantic partners.

In short, it’s a label for an otherwise label-free relationship. Yes I’ve been in one and it allowed me to learn sooooo much about myself. The most crucial lesson I gained from it was that it did not suit my needs. I firmly believe that I deserve and require more than that.

Being in a situationship is NOT the same as friends with benefits.

Situationships, despite often being seen in a negative light, are not inherently harmful. Whether you want to keep your alternatives open or you’re not quite ready to fully commit, maintaining undefined relationships can bring pleasure, sexual satisfaction, and even a feeling of liberation. A situationship offers a relaxed opportunity to get to know another person without the pressure of making a decision.

In my point of view, the downfall of it is when someone becomes too emotionally invested. If your casual relationship is not going in the direction you desire or if it is becoming unhealthy, that is your cue to leave. However, instead of walking away, you choose to stay in hopes of changing the other person’s viewpoint. Ultimately, you still feel alone because you are the only one in a relationship that lacks reciprocation.

It appears to me that only females utilize this term and willingly find themselves in these circumstances because males go along with what we accept. They are fully aware of the notion of having no commitments or obligations.

When shit hit the fan he will quickly remind you “we are not in a commitment. We are not in a relationship.”

When you first meet a man and he informs you that he is not interested in a romantic relationship, it is important to believe him and not attempt to convince him otherwise. He has a deep understanding of himself and knows his own capacity to provide you with only the bare minimum. I understand that this may frustrate you because why would he be in the dating scene or even in your presence when you have clearly expressed your desire for a committed relationship.

He can’t show up for you the way you need him to show up!

This situation can create a lot of confusion because a man can genuinely like you, feel attracted to you, pursue you, take you out on dates, introduce you to his family and friends, please you sexually, and still not commit to a serious relationship. He may just suddenly disappear.

Have you ever got played by somebody that wanted you first?

A person of integrity will either grant your desires or decline them. They will not toy with your emotions in such a manner. The poisonous ones will keep you hanging on.

If you’re actively entertaining a situationship ask yourself why?

Sit down and take a moment to deeply contemplate your desires. What does your ideal future look like? Sometimes, we may struggle to envision it or simply need a gentle reminder. Even if you are currently single, create a vision board that represents your ideal relationship. Just because you have never experienced it or it is not happening right now does not mean it is impossible. There is so much positivity and fulfillment out there that you have yet to encounter. However, it will take time and effort on your part. Once you make the conscious decision to let go of the temporary offerings of a situationship and open yourself and your space to new possibilities, you will naturally attract what you truly desire.