Imagine desiring, yearning, and hoping for that special someone. It’s daunting, the chance that someone could be the exact person you’ve been seeking but you’re hesitant to form a close bond.

Due to past incidents, I tread carefully with each new individual I meet, ultimately leading to a dismissive avoidant attachment style.

Society often makes us believe we’re overly emotional, clingy, or too susceptible. This leads to situations where we contribute little but desire much. We find ourselves questioning if we’re being too proactive or if we’re not doing enough. Are our feelings driven by passion or by love? We often convince ourselves it’s just passion to avoid revealing our true feelings.

Why are we like this?

It’s almost like… you don’t want that person to know how you really feel about them.

When someone pushes me to reveal my true self, whether intentionally or unintentionally, I am always overcome by fear, causing me to retreat to my safe space.

It’s astounding, but we often find ourselves gravitating back towards the very situations that God has freed us from. How can we break free from this harmful cycle to fully embrace the life we truly yearn for and are worthy of?

It can be challenging to step out of your comfort zone to create a new place to live without any guarantee that you won’t once again find yourself alone.

We satisfy ourselves with what is familiar, reassuring our hearts that a connection still lingers with those who consistently demonstrate that their expressions of affection are nothing but figments of the imagination. We are inclined towards fantasy rather than confronting the stark reality, and then we assert that love is agonizing. We debate its effectiveness when in truth, we are the ones continually opting to forsake the superior for the inferior.

Why do we have to tip toe around with our feelings?

What does the future of legitimate relationships look like?