As adults, we often overlook the significance of friendships, yet they play a crucial role in our lives. As time moves forward and our circumstances evolve, so do our connections, especially our friendships. Regardless of your current phase in life, you would likely agree that forming or maintaining friendships isn’t as straightforward as it once was. I could fill a book with tales of people I once considered friends or those I was open to befriending. Unfortunately, my past experiences have somewhat deterred me from seeking out new connections.
That being said, at this stage, it’s normal for your circle to have shrunk, relocated, become deeply involved in their careers, or started families. We all encounter life’s challenges, but it’s vital to nurture the friendships we do have. Balancing friendship maintenance with life’s many hurdles can be tough. While some friendships may fade or evolve, it’s essential to cherish the ones that endure. I urge you to remain engaged no matter what, but also reflect on what you contribute to the relationship.
Friendship isn’t merely about exchanging favors, but it’s true that being a good friend is essential for having good friends. But you have to have a pure heart!
The concept of balance in friendships is intriguing. You don’t want to be the person who always takes or constantly offers favors. While keeping score isn’t necessary, there must be a sense of balance. Reciprocity is important.
Be a patient and attentive listener. Don’t listen just to reply. Assess the situation—does your friend need to vent, seek advice, or want something else from you at that moment? Sometimes, people simply need a sympathetic ear rather than an opinion.
Positivity can make a significant impact. Everyone appreciates encouragement. Express your support in person; don’t just show it through social media likes. Congratulate them publicly and celebrate their achievements in a way that makes them feel special.
Show interest and take the initiative. If you wish to spend more time with friends, take the lead in planning outings and activities. You might organize an event and create drinks inspired by the “Sis, Have a Cocktail” Newsletter.
