I saw this post on Instagram and died laughing. It’s funny because it happened to me but, the thousands of comments had me like dammmmnnnnn its a lot of us. Let’s just say this has been a weird a** year to be dating but next year I will not be hoodwinked.
Imagine life being peaceful then BOOM, its all of a sudden disturbed. Sis, let me tell you…. Dude saw me out in public. So you know how technology is.. if you so happen to glance at somebody they will pop up on your timeline. I’m assuming that’s what happen because dude followed me. He started off with laughing at my stories. Instead of me writing back I just reacted to his reaction. Now if I’m being honest, I was excited to have his attention. He is a very young good looking man and lets just say very well accomplished so I didn’t want to seem thirsty. After about two weeks, he finally stopped reacting to my stories and wrote me. Of course I wrote back. We had great conversations, he seemed really interested in my writing and the things I was working towards. Overall he was CONSISTENT until all of a sudden he wasn’t.
Sis, he chased me! Remember a while back I begged women to stop chasing men? I took my own advice and let him do the chasing. AND HE DID EFFORTLESSLY. After a while I did a little chasing back because I’ve learned you have to reciprocate that energy especially if the feelings are mutual.
This went on for months then I was ghosted. Ghosting is nothing new in today’s modern dating culture. It describes the act of abruptly — and seemingly without reason — stopping all communication within a budding romantic relationship. The ghoster vanishes into thin air, ignoring the other person’s text, calls, and carrier pigeon memos, ceasing all contact.
If I’m being honest it left me completely bewildered and confused as to where it all went wrong. Although we never became a couple and wasn’t officially in a relationship but sh** we talked about it multiple times and his punk a** kept bringing it up. Talking about marriage and kids and sh**. To know that people are legit out here doing this and knowing how it feels I can sympathize with a lot of women because ghosting is a form of emotional cruelty and deepens feelings of abandonment and desertion. Is this apart of a game that I don’t know about? When did sh** like this start?
What happen to if it’s not working out for whatever reason, break up with them the right way, even if it might be a difficult conversation?
I’m really not sure what lesson I should take away from this situation but I have moved on. I don’t have much of a choice but its part of the reason why I’m Not Ready to Date, I Have Attachment Issues.
Stand strong ladies, heal, and know that we got this! Our husbands is out there somewhere.
