After the Honeymoon Phase in Relationships

“When my honeymoon phase was over, it felt like a slap in the face!”

The honeymoon phase is a ecstatic, carefree period in a couple’s relationship. This is when you’re just getting to know each other. Everything your new partner does, from how they eat to the stories they tell, how they walk is charming and endearing….. but this wont last forever…for some.

What is the Honeymoon Phase?

The honeymoon phase is an early part of a couple’s relationship where everything seems carefree and happy. It usually lasts from six months to two years and can be marked with lots of laughs, intimacy, and fun dates.

Let’s be clear… the honeymoon phase is exactly what we call it… a PHASE. For most people, the honeymoon phase lasts between six months and two years, but there is no rule for how long you should be in this phase. I was just recently in this phase with my previous partner and I never wanted it to end. However, eventually it ended, leaving me to adjust to a new, more sustainable reality. For some couples, the honeymoon phase ends before they want it to, and others don’t experience it at all. This was my first time experiencing the honeymoon phase and let me tell you… I WAS ON CLOUD NINE. At some point I started to use this time to pay attention to my feelings and how I perceived my partner. I can remember telling him how much I loved and enjoyed this phase and he said ” It wont last forever.” At that moment I knew I couldn’t predict the future to see how long it would last, so the most important thing to do is enjoy every minute of it and take it one day at a time. The phase is meant to be enjoyed and to have fun. Go on dates, have adventures, spend a lot of time enjoying each other’s company. The honeymoon phase is also a good time to get to know your partner.

The honeymoon phase in a relationship is like a fairytale Everything is

happy

peaceful

and fun.

During this time it’s easy to be blinded. An instant spark with your partner might be blinded by giddiness and not see the full picture of the person with whom you are entering into a relationship with. Because I was caught up in the moment and enjoying the ride…. it was a little difficult for me to realize that person was a liar and a manipulator. Crazy thing is he didn’t try hard to hide it… it was me that dismissed it all. Therefore I strongly recommend while going through this phase still pay close attention to every detail.

What Happens After the Honeymoon Phase Is Over

“When my honeymoon phase was over, it felt like a slap in the face!”

After a honeymoon phase, you might start going through hardships. You may disagree over topics large and small or even question if you want to keep dating your partner after their true ways or thoughts have been revealed. The things you use to enjoy doing does not have the same excitement. When our phase began to fade away we started to spend less time. I complained and caught attitudes here and there. He began to schedule date nights here and there but I didn’t enjoy them because I felt they were forced. The dates only occurred because I brought it up.

I began to realize he wasn’t as perfect as I thought, and conflicts began to creep in more and more. At this time you’ll become more irritated by your partner or notice things about him or her you didn’t in the past. You might also start to fight more or have less sex. I questioned my relationship which is normal during this time. 

BUT……they say going through these trials are important. The foundation of what builds strength in long-term relationships is when you go through hardships together and come out the other side holding hands. They also say if you make it through this time as a couple, you know you can handle whatever life brings in the future. I don’t fully agree or disagree with this but I guess it depends on the couple and the relationship. Now if you’re someone who loves hard and really love that person and wants to see how far things can go with your partner…. below are a few ways you can get back on the honeymoon phase. If these don’t help… maybe your problems run a little deeper.

Get a Little Space and Time  I can’t really emphasize this one enough, especially if you’re feeling bored by the relationship or overwhelmed with clinginess. With all of the dates and texting and talking over the phone consistently throughout the day Maybe you’re seeing each other too much and just need a break. Either way, getting away from each other for a bit might just help you realize how much you still enjoy being together. After all, you can’t miss each other if you’re never apart. This could mean taking a week or two of not seeing each other, or it could simply mean scheduling a day or two of ‘me-time’ in every week. Just be careful how you phrase this, as asking for a bit of time apart could sound awfully like a break-up if you’re not careful.

Go on a Second First Date  I hope this makes sense LOL The goal here is to recapture a bit of that early magic by simulating that early relationship feeling. Dress up a bit, put on some smell good…preferably a scent he loves, and do your best to impress each other, just like you used to. Of course you’re past that stage and simple things works for you.. but spark it up.

Try Something New Go on a new adventure….together…… It doesn’t really matter what, though it’s probably making sure that it’s something you both want to do. The important thing is that you’re doing something as a couple that you’ve never done before. Just remember you will get bored and its ok to try something new!

Get Another Perspective HOWEVER…. be very carful with this option. Getting an outside view of your relationship may be just the thing to remind you of what you might be about to give up on. This is particularly great if you have a trusted female friend to turn to, who might just give you a better sense of how the relationship looks from the outside, and how it might look from your girlfriend’s perspective. I would recommend getting a males opinion as well.

Please keep in mind just because the honeymoon is over, doesn’t mean the relationship is over.

Below share with us what was your honeymoon phase like?

When it ended what were your thoughts?

We’d love to hear from you!

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